Sunday, November 3, 2019

Change in the Nostalgic Generation

In the age of a highly nostalgic generation, it's hard to accept change. Change is good though. If we didn't experience change, we couldn't experience nostalgia.

There's something interesting about this nostalgic experience... In Psychology, we refer to this as the positivity bias. This effect refers to how we look back on the past with a positive lens rather than a negative one. This effect is at its strongest within the older generation. It explains why older people often reflect on their childhood as a joyful experience rather than a hard, traumatic experience.

In short, changing allows us to experience opposition between good experiences and bad experiences. In all that we do, we are able to choose our consequences. I, for one, am thankful that we can change. So much good can come from it.

Because of change, we can become better people, and our enemies can become our friends. Because of change, we can grow up, we can move on, and we can overcome anything. It is our ability to change that empowers us to become who we are meant to become. The best part is that we can decide what we are meant to become. We can break the cycle of who we are in order to become who we want to be.

It's easy to want to go back to when things were better, but why not look towards the future with as much fondness as we do the past? Often, I find myself looking forward with dread. As much as I love planning and organization, I stress and stress about upcoming events and tasks instead of focusing on what I can get out of them.

What's the point of doing anything when we dread everything we do, but look back on those same events and want to go back?

We can choose to enjoy the events we experience now.

Change is empowering. If we learn to embrace the power of change, we can look forward with excitement instead of dread. We can grow from the challenges we are presented with instead of being weakened by them. Nostalgia is powerful. If we can find a way to look forward in the same way that we look back on past events, our motivation will increase!

Friday, July 13, 2018

Wired Differently

Well, the year as it stands has been pretty eventful.

I got a life-changing surgery called gastric sleeve. I basically got most of my stomach taken out, leaving me with 20% of what I normally could carry in my tummy. Recovery has been pretty painful, but I'm feeling thankful to finally be making headway.

Truthfully I didn't feel like I could really post about all this for such a long time because I didn't know if ANYBODY would support my decision if I talked about any downsides on here, but I'm so proud of myself, especially since I can post result pictures!

I'm just a pound away from getting under 200 lbs. I'm so excited to be down a few pant sizes too!

Just prior to flying out to Mexico for my surgery, I got to go through the Idaho Falls temple with my best friend. It feels so amazing to say that we are sealed together for time and all eternity. It also feels pretty good to be able to feel like you really belong in the married wards on campus, and to finally feel "more" accepted into our respective families.

I feel like I've learned a lot this year about marriage. Mainly about how as husband and wife, we are wired differently.

Let me rephrase.

Everyone is wired differently.

Just because something is right for someone, doesn't make it right for someone else.

I also learned that one of the biggest things that can heal a relationship is time. Not due to my marriage, but due to the relationships that I've had with friends and family over the years. It seems like with these kinds of relationships, you can hit a rough patch, and be really mad at each other for a long time, but if you're really true friends or good family, you will be able to move on with time and forgiveness.

Since we're wired differently the amount of time it takes to reach forgiveness can definitely vary from relationship to relationship. Christ teaches us that we should forgive our fellow man no matter what, and immediately. Since we're not perfect like he is this can be really hard, but with a lot of will power, faith, and strength of heart, it can be done.

I'm so thankful to be able to return to the blog and write out my feelings when times get hard. I feel that sometimes everyone needs a break, a time where they can just sit back, and take in life as it comes. I feel that my time away from the blog has given me that opportunity while so much was going on in my life.

Monday, September 4, 2017

Summer's End, Capstone Project

I'm putting together this new website for a school project that I'm doing. I think it's a fantastic way to display my testimony through the eight topics that I chose to talk about I figured that I'd share it with all of you before it's finished.


Here's a list of quotes that I liked about the Atonement. You can find more quotes about other topics like family, agency, obedience, and more. 

1) “The fundamental principles of our religion (are) the testimony of the apostles and the prophets concerning Jesus Christ, … that he died, was buried, and rose again the third day, and ascended up into heaven; and all other things are only appendages to these which pertain to our religion.” (Smith, Joseph. Elder’s Journal. July 1838)
2) . “Under the Father’s great eternal plan, it is the Savior who suffered. It is the Savior who broke the bands of death. It is the Savior who paid the price for our sins and transgressions and blots them out on condition of our repentance. It is the Savior who delivers us from physical and spiritual death… The Savior’s atoning sacrifice…is best understood and appreciated when we expressly and clearly connect it to Him.” (Nelson, Russell M. “Drawing the Power of Jesus Christ into Our Lives.” General Conference. April 2017.)
3) “Jesus was the only one who could offer such an infinite atonement, since He was born of a mortal mother and an immortal Father. Because of that unique birthright, Jesus was an infinite Being.” (Nelson, Russell M. “The Atonement.” General Conference. October 1996)
4) “The Creation required the Fall. The Fall required the Atonement. The Atonement enabled the purpose of the Creation to be accomplished. Eternal life, made possible by the Atonement, is the supreme purpose of the Creation. To phrase that statement in its negative form, if families were not sealed in holy temples, the whole earth would be utterly wasted.” (Nelson, Russell M. “The Atonement.” General Conference. October 1996)
5) “The Savior has admonished us to become as He is. Thus, following the Lord includes emulating Him. We continue to come to know the Lord as we seek through the power of His Atonement to become like Him. In His mortal ministry, Jesus marked the path, led the way, and set the perfect example.” (Bednar, David A. “If Ye Had Known Me.” General Conference. October 2016.)
6) “The Atonement of Jesus Christ provides the cleanser necessary to be made pure and clean, the soothing salve to heal spiritual wounds and remove guilt, and the protection that enables us to be faithful in times both good and bad.” (Bednar, David A. “Come and See It.” General Conference. October 2014.)
7) “Because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, all spirits blessed by birth will ultimately be resurrected, spirit and body reunited, and inherit kingdoms of glory that are superior to our existence here on earth.” (Cook, Quentin L. “Our Father’s Plan—Big Enough for All His Children.” General Conference. April 2009.)
8) “Overcoming the world is not one defining moment in a lifetime, but a lifetime of moments that define an eternity…Praying, repenting, following the Savior, and receiving His grace lead us to better understand why we are here and who we are to become.” (Anderson, Neil L. “Overcoming the World.” General Conference. April 2017.)
9) “The miracle of the Atonement can make up for imperfections in our performance.”  (Stevenson, Gary A. “Your Four Minutes.” General Conference. April 2014.)
10) “You have the Savior of the world on your side. If you seek His help and follow His directions, how can you fail?” (Stevenson, Gary A. “Your Four Minutes.” General Conference. April 2014.)
11) “The Atonement, which can reclaim each one of us, bears no scars. That means that no matter what we have done or where we have been or how something happened, if we truly repent (the Savior) has promised that He would atone. And when He atoned, that settled that… The Atonement can wash clean every stain no matter how difficult or how long or how many times repeated.” (Packer, Boyd K. “The Plan of Happiness.” Ensign. May 2015.)
12) “The miracle of the Atonement can make up for imperfections in our performance.” (Stevenson, Gary A. “Your Four Minutes.” General Conference. April 2014.)

Aside from quotes, I have a position statement/ testimony for each of the eight topics that I talk about in the project. Lastly, I have a personal application project about the Atonement.

Feel free to read up!

Friday, August 4, 2017

Care More

Sorry guys! I know that I haven't posted in a while, but life got kind of crazy, but I didn't really have much to talk about at the same time. Anyways, this month I started a couple of classes for the Summer. They've been really interesting so far. I'm taking Marriage Skills and Teachings of the Living Prophets.

We've been talking about the importance of communication in my marriage skills class, and it's been really interesting to see all the little things that couples are doing wrong. I thought it was intriguing that being defensive is a way to tear your marriage apart because all you're doing is placing the blame on your significant other.Turns out the best way to communicate and resolve your issues with your partner is to strengthen your friendship and truly CARE about one another.

Moral of the story is: Be friends first and foremost and always remember to LISTEN to one another. Because if it's important to them, it should be important to you.

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Finally His Mrs.

Well, the married life has definitely been a relief. Jared and I were so done with all of the drama that came along with planning a wedding and pleasing family. Needless to say, there was a lot going on directly beforehand, and a lot of it needed to be sorted out before I could write on the blog again.

So far, marriage has been full of service. I'm not used to having to take care of another person and letting another person take care of me. The closest you could get to marriage without getting married would be a really good friendship with your parents. You cook and clean up for them in hopes that they'll give you a roof to live under, food, and take you fun places.

One of the biggest things I've learned is that your relationship will suffer if you keep score. Thinking back on all that we've done for each other within the last few weeks, I can't really even think of who's the better spouse. We both help each other in different ways, and that's what's needed. I'm so thankful that Jared and I are so different. Because of our differences we are able to help our household in different ways.

Job hunting has definitely been scary. I've gotten rejected a lot, but I'm really hopeful that I might get a job at Maurice's. I went in to check on the status of my application, and the employee working there said she really liked me and then she put my name on her manager's desk saying to look out for my application. I bought a couple things there just to make a good impression, but dang the clothes there are just my style. Not only are they fashionable, but they're also pretty casual!

I'm so thankful that Jared and I don't have to be apart anymore. It's so nice to come home to each other and spend quality time together, whether it be laughing and talking with each other about our days, or binge-watching "How I Met Your Mother" on Netflix. The real motivation behind our actions is that we love each other and want to make each other happy. If we can keep that motivation alive, our relationship can last for time and all eternity.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Calling it Quits.

I came home. I couldn't handle the constant stress that my roommates unfortunately provided. I wish that I could say that they were always supportive and loving. Unfortunately, after reporting my roommate for breaking the honor code, my roommates started to completely ignore me. I couldn't handle that stress; especially when it is in addition to the stress I already was feeling from school, family, and wedding planning. 

I fully acknowledge that I did nothing wrong. However, my roommates are still upset for what I did, and I'm not sure that they'll ever forgive me for being a "bully." But that's okay. I'm just excited to be done with my last group of roommates. It's not like roommates are bad or anything, but there's a burden lifted off of your shoulders when you find out you don't need to deal with them a week earlier than you expected.

I love living in my mom's basement. The bed is so comfy and I feel like I can just hide from the world. I know that there's a world out there ready to meet me, but sometimes I just need to lay down and rest from it. I'm just so tired of the stress and worry surrounding me. It's time to get over that and make it a point to focus on what's soon to be my marriage. I can't worry about what other people think anymore, so I had to take myself out of that position.

It's only a week early, but you'd be surprised how much of a change happened. Not only was I feeling less stressed, but I've been able to catch up on so much sleep and concentrate and pace myself so much better on my homework. I'm able to actually sit back and relax. I nearly have everything packed up for married housing!

It's finals week up here at BYU-I. I'm so ready to be done with this semester. I'm so excited to move in with Jared and start our life together. We're already starting to share money, and it's been an incredible blessing to have him by my side. It stresses him out when we spend so much time together because he's got other things he needs to do, but with the wedding so close and stresses surrounding us, I can't help but need him around more.

I'm so glad that I have a place to stay other than A15. My last week there was full of anxiety and I wasn't sure how I was going to get through the rest of the semester living with those people. I needed a feeling of belonging, and even though I can't really get that when I live at my mom's, I am out of the sense like I don't belong.

Monday, March 27, 2017


Here is a poem I wrote for my Personal Achievement class. I turned this in as a Personal Mission Statement, but it came out as a poem of sorts. I guess that's just what my heart wanted for the assignment. Anyways, I hope you guys enjoy.

by Rebekah Phillips

I am a diamond.
I change under pressure.
If it wasn’t for the worst,
Then could I get better?

If it weren’t for ink,
Could I have changed?
If I weren’t covered in faults,
Could I have been refined?

Through trials and hard places,
I found comfort in familiar faces.
I turned bad into good;
I turned can’t into could.

Starting as coal
Changed due to weather,
I am a diamond.
I change under pressure.